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Positives of Not Having Frequent Sex with Your Spouse

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When it comes to sex with your spouse, less may be more. Contrary to what the rest of the world seems to think, there are many upsides to not having frequent sex with your partner. Yes, you read that correctly!

Let’s back up for a moment. There’s a great deal of information suggesting the benefits of having frequent—even daily—sex go far beyond the obvious pleasant sensations. For example, articles link the act to cold prevention, and even to earning more money—one study found that those enjoying time between the sheets at least four times a week earned about 5% more than those who didn’t. Meanwhile, there’s an influx of shows, movies and books focusing on the topic, making it clear that there’s a huge emphasis on sex in society. But that’s not necessarily a good thing. Here’s why.

The “less is more” approach to sexual intimacy

This isn’t to say a person should forego sex for weeks on end or become a cold, unromantic soul. Rather, it’s about letting go of society’s over-emphasis on the importance of sex in relationships. In other words, toss the notion that daily romps are the only way to bond with your spouse, or that going more than three days without sex means your marriage is doomed. While the rest of the world is constantly trying to determine if their “normal” fits in with the bevy of surveys, statistics and articles about the act based on what other people are wearing, whispering and exploring, consider shifting away from the extreme focus on sex. Instead, adopt a “less is more” approach to sexual intimacy.

Relationship expert Dr. Phil is on board with this idea. While he acknowledges the importance of sex in strengthening bonds, he maintains that it need not always include chandelier-swinging and simultaneous orgasms. In fact, he says that people should also view sexual intimacy as something that has nothing to do with intercourse.

He suggests engaging in other physical acts that are sexual and loving in nature; holding hands, caressing and touching are ways he says people can—and should—be intimate. When you and your spouse engage in these gestures, you’re still communicating desire and expressing love; wrinkled sheets and clothes strewn across the floor aren’t the sole way of conveying such feelings.

Daily sex: the stuff dreams are made of… or overrated and predictable?

David Lesser, who addresses the topic of frequent sex in a Huffington Post blog, writes that while he isn’t saying daily sex would be awful, he’s of the mindset that it’s not necessary. That is the key message here: despite all the pictures, tips, hard-to-pronounce “new” positions and “how often are you getting it” discussions, frequent sex is not essential to creating lasting bonds with your partner. “Trying to do the deed daily sounds like a job,” Lesser says. That’s the point exactly. Sex should be fun, meaningful and spontaneous; daily sex can equate to yawning, predictability and ho-hum feelings.

Not having frequent sex with your spouse can also intensify the experience when it does take place. There’s something about yearning and a slow build-up of anticipation that can take sex from good to fantastic.

Forget the over-emphasis on sex and do what’s best for you and your partner

What fun is sex when it’s based on what others say is the optimal frequency? Their lives are not yours. They may have no children, while you have three. They may have roommates, while you and your spouse have the house to yourself. You are not your colleague, neighbor or a reality TV show celebrity, so ditch whatever you hear or read about sex (much of which is likely filled with gossip and exaggeration anyway), and do what best works for you and your spouse.

Ditching the constant focus on sex and abandoning tasks like keeping track of time in between lovemaking sessions can also strengthen another crucial area in relationships—communication. Yes, sex is a form of communication, but beyond that, there’s something to be said for face-to-face interaction—with clothes still on. Sharing laughs, letting your spouse in on your deepest thoughts and approaching serious topics are all part of bonding that builds intimacy and fosters increased closeness in and out of the bedroom.

In sum, choosing not to place so much emphasis on the frequency, duration and kind of sex you’re having and instead focusing on other aspects of your relationship can bring you and your partner closer together. Sex is amazing and important, but it’s not everything.

How Sexting Can Strengthen Relationships

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While sexting—sending suggestive texts and in some instances, images—is often something that people think destroys relationships, it can actually strengthen them. Of course, if your intent is to send sexual thoughts to someone other than your significant other, then you’re naturally setting yourself up for relationship problems. But when sexting occurs between you and your special loved one and doesn’t entail any of that life-ruining, cheating drama, it can do wonders for your romantic life. Here’s why.

Sexting boosts confidence

Think you could never bring yourself to send a suggestive text to your spouse? Give it a try. The thrill of sending the text will boost your confidence, especially if it’s not something you’d ever imagine yourself doing. Say what you feel. You’ll not only be surprised at how the words flow, but at how you’ll feel more self-assured in the bedroom. Hey, if you sent that kind of text, who knows what the night will bring?

It need not be the stuff romance novels are made of, or filled with X-rated words; a simple, “I can’t wait until you get home (with a wink emoticon),” or “I keep thinking of how good you looked when you got out of the shower last night,” will get the wheels of intimate thoughts going.

Sexting can improve your sex life

All of that sexually-charged messaging can boost your sex life, and there’s science to back it up.

A study led by researchers from Drexel University found that those who were involved in sexting reported having more satisfied sex lives and a more satisfied relationship in general. This research involved both committed couples as well as more casual encounters. It’s thought that expressing yourself so openly boosts libido and builds excitement so that sexual activity is ultimately more pleasing when it takes place.

Sexting can open the lines of romantic communication

Sexting can reduce the face-to-face awkwardness that sometimes comes with telling your partner you’d like to try a new position or be touched more in one particular spot. Suggestive texts about being massaged a certain way or ones that involve an image of you in more revealing clothing than normal can open the lines of communication; what’s otherwise left unsaid in the “real” world can be conveyed via text and handled accordingly.

Sexts can allow shy or more conservative couples to “talk” about things they’d typically not discuss, say, over dinner or during foreplay.

Sexting keeps the romance alive

Receiving a sext in areas not otherwise associated with feelings of desire can help keep the romance alive. There you are, sweating from a good gym workout, when you get a sext. Perhaps your spouse sends you a sext just as you leave the office. In essence, you’re maintaining a connection when you’d otherwise not be physically able to do so in certain situations. The thrill of getting or sending sexts just as you leave the grocery store or just prior to a conference call allows for more ongoing interaction. With today’s longer working hours and busier schedules, sexts can help keep the romance alive.

Sexting benefits mature adults too

While you might have images that only young 20-somethings are sexting away like there’s no tomorrow, the truth is, people of all ages are doing it—including those in their 50s and 60s. Relationship experts suggest that it’s a myth that aging and a diminished sexual desire go hand in hand. Instead, relationship coach Suzanne Blake explains, “Boomers want sexual activity. They want to flirt. It makes them feel lively and young.” To that end, she says that she’s observed a rise in older couples who are sexting, including people who “show” their spouse what they’re missing while on a business trip, for example.

For couples of all ages, sexting is a fun and harmless way to spice up your sex life and increase the potential for more fulfilling romantic encounters. Just be sure to double check that your saucy talk isn’t being sent to Mom or your boss; watch that phone contact list carefully, and keep track of toggling between that last conversation with your neighbor and the “what are you wearing” ones with your spouse.

So, what are you waiting for? Try sexting, or sexting more often, and you’ll be sure to experience increased confidence, better communication and improved levels of satisfaction.

‘Woman on top’ is most dangerous sex position, scientists conclude

Scientists have found that the ‘cowgirl’ position is responsible for half of all penile fractures during sexual intercourse.

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It might have emancipated women from the drudgery of the ‘Missionary Position’, but it seems that men are paying a painful price for revolution in the bedroom.

“Woman on top” is the most dangerous sex position, according to a new scientific study.

Scientists have found that the position, dubbed “cowgirl”, is responsible for half of all penile fractures in the bedroom.

The research also revealed that the “doggy-style” position, with women on all fours, is behind 29 per cent of afflictions.

In contrast, the traditional “man on top” is responsible for just 21 per cent.

Doctors and academics looked at patients attending three A&E units with suspected “penile fractures” over a 13 year period.

Half of them reported hearing a crack before experiencing pain, with some also suffering swelling.

Their average age was 34 and some of the men waited up to six hours before seeking medical help.

The research concluded: “Our study supports the fact that sexual intercourse with ‘woman on top’ is the potentially riskiest sexual position related to penile fracture.

“Our hypothesis is that when woman is on top she usually controls the movement with her entire body weight landing on the erect penis, not being able to interrupt it when the penis suffers a wrong way penetration, because the harm is usually minor in woman with no pain but major in the penis.

“On the contrary, when the man is controlling the movement, he has better chances of stopping the penetration energy in response to the pain related to the penis harm, minimizing it.”

The study found that 44 men had attended hospital, with 42 having “the condition confirmed after clinical, radiological and surgical evaluation”.

Of these, 28 were injured in heterosexual romps, four during homosexual intercourse, six as a result of “penis manipulation” and four in circumstances which were “unclear”.

The study, published in the Advances in Urology journal, reads: “Half of patients (50 per cent) presented with the classical triad of an audible crack followed by pain.

“The presentation time of patients to the hospital after penile fracture ranged from 0.5 to 6 hours.”

“Penile fracture is a relatively uncommon clinical condition that frequently causes fear and embarrassment for the patient, hypothetically resulting in delayed search for medical assistance, which can lead to impairment of sexual and voiding functions,” said the authors.

“Considering that most studies are retrospective and based on patients records information regarding the social dynamics surrounding penile fracture is scarce in the literature, mainly potentially risky sexual positions.”

The scientists, who looked at three hospitals in Campinas, a city of three million people in Brazil, used hospital records and in some cases interviewed the patients.

The Sexiest Thing About You, According To Your Zodiac Sign

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Your horoscope is your North Star — the guiding light that leads you safely to shore through the ocean of life. But your zodiac sign is more than just a sign post that points you in the right direction. It has a lot to say about your personality and character, too.

Your sign manifests itself through your personality, and therefore, your sex appeal. Here’s what makes each sign sexy in their own way.

Aries (March 21 – April 19): Symbolized by the god of war, you’re strong and assertive and you get what you want. If Beyoncé taught mankind anything, it’s that there’s nothing sexier than an independent woman.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20): Taurus is a pleasure-seeking social butterfly, and boy do you stand out in a crowd. You’re always the center of attention, and people can’t help but want a piece of you.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20): You’re a little shy and reserved, but to many that’s impossible to resist. The fact that you’re coy and play hard to get makes people want you all the more.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22): You draw others in with your warm, nurturing nature. You’re inviting in all the right ways. People just feel good getting close to you, if you know what we mean.

Leo (July 23 – August 22): Confidence is key, dear Leo. You take charge and others take notice. You’re dominant and never passive. You make the first move and are the one to turn up the temperature.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22): Your artistic and linguistic mind arms you with a way with words that can charm the pants off anyone. Seriously, you’re the master at talking someone into bed.

Libra (September 23 – October 22): Libra is said to be the most desirable sign. You ooze charm, beauty and kindness. You’re the girl dudes in movies see in slow motion when they look at you for the first time.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21): You’re bold and passionate, and others can’t help but get swept up in your fiery torrent. You radiate with an energy that’s infectious to everyone around you.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21): Though you’re the luckiest zodiac sign, you’re doing more than just getting lucky. Your spontaneity is exciting to others and makes you attractive because you’re always willing to try new things.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19): Your quick wit and sense of humor are the primary sources of your sex appeal. One laugh is basically worth two drinks in terms of lowering inhibitions, and you’ve got enough jokes to make the other person drunk on you.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18): You’re thoughtful in all the right ways. Sweet can be sexy! You always know the right things to say and the right buttons to push to turn your partner all the way on.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20): You’re dark and mysterious, making people naturally gravitate towards you. Being aloof may seem like a lonely existence, but like a black hole your darkness only draws people in.

Making Healthy Sexual Decisions

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You may be thinking about what it means to be involved in a sexual relationship. As a young adult, it’s normal to think about sex, have sexual feelings, and have a desire to learn more about your own body. Deciding to have a sexual relationship is an important decision since it involves both your body and your emotions. You need to make sure that it’s the right decision for you. It’s always good to have a trusted adult to talk to.

What should I think about before I decide to have sex?

There are many things that are important to think about before you decide to have sex, including whether this is what you want and whether this is the right time in your life. You should also think about how you will feel afterwards. It should be a decision made without any pressure from your partner or friends.

You should never let others pressure you into having sex if you don’t want to.

  • The decision to have sex for the first time (and every time after) is yours, not anyone else’s!
  • Remember that it’s completely appropriate to wait to have sex.
Young women choose to wait to have sex for many reasons, such as wanting to wait until they are older or married, being unsure about what they want, having certain religious beliefs, or wanting to avoid the possibility of getting a sexually transmitted infection(STI) or getting pregnant.

What do I need to know if I’m sexually active or I’m thinking about becoming sexually active?

Young women have to make lots of decisions about sex, including whether to abstain (not have sex), or be sexually active.

If you are sexually active, you’ll also need to think about the:

  • Gender of your sexual partner(s)
  • Kind of relationship you have with them
  • Type of contraception (if you have a male partner) and sexually transmitted infection (STI) prevention methods you’ll use

Before you decide to have a sexual relationship, talk with your partner about whether having sex is what you both want.

  1. Ask about his or her sexual history, including if he or she has had any STI’s.
  2. Talk about what kinds of STI prevention methods you plan to use.
  3. If you are in a heterosexual (straight) relationship, talk about birth control (condom, birth control pill, injection hormones, the “patch”, the “ring”, or IUD) and what you would do if it failed. If you feel that you can’t talk to your partner about these issues, then you should rethink whether or not you should be having a sexual relationship.
  4. Be open and honest about whether you or your partner have been, or will be sexually involved with other people.Remember, the risk of getting an STI or a virus that can cause cancer or AIDS is increased if you or your partner(s) have sexual intercourse with other people. The more partners, the greater the risk!
  5. Talk to your primary care provider about methods of birth control that are right for you, and about how to prevent STI’s.

Don’t forget that a female can get pregnant at ANY time if she has sex with a male without a condom, or if she is not using birth control correctly. To lessen the chance of pregnancy and STI’s, you should use a latex condom every time you have sex, from start to finish. The only way to absolutely prevent getting pregnant or an STI is to not have sex.

Whom can I talk to about sex?

If you have questions about sex (whether or not you’re thinking about having a sexual relationship) you should talk to your parent(s)/guardian(s), a trusted adult such as a school counselor, someone from your religious center/youth group, or your health care provider. It’s a good idea to discuss all of your choices and any concerns you may have so that you can make healthy decisions. Deciding whether or not to have sex can be a difficult decision, so it’s always good to have someone to talk to.

How do I find a health care provider to discuss birth control and STI protection?

Many young women and men can talk to their moms, dads, or guardians about these issues, while others need confidential services. You can talk to your primary care provider (PCP) about birth control or STI protection. You also have the option of talking to a gynecologist, a health care provider at a family planning clinic, or a health care provider at a student health center or school clinic. You should feel comfortable with your provider, since it’s important to share personal information and any health problems with her/him. You need to find a provider who will listen to your concerns, answer your questions, and take the time to explain things clearly to you.

Sex Positions That Double as Exercise

im-12No matter how much your partner pleads, you can’t substitute time in the sack for time on the treadmill. However, certain sex positions do work a woman’s muscle groups — some so much, in fact, that you might not be able to make it to the gym the next day.

Missionary

In a way, the missionary position is the physical equivalent of the old “I’m busy washing my hair” excuse — it’s the brush-off used when you’re lazy, tired, or just not that interested. But despite being one of the most passive contortions for a woman, man-on-top can still provide a pretty good workout.

“It depends on how enthusiastic you are about it, but missionary can be great for the core muscles,” says Stacy Berman, a New York City-based certified fitness trainer and founder of Stacy’s Boot Camp. “If your partner is thrusting toward you, you want to have an equal and opposite thrust back, and that requires a lot of core strength. It actually will start burning.”

Patti Britton, author of The Art of Sex Coaching and immediate past president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, agrees that you’ll definitely be feeling it in your abs. “You can strengthen your core by focusing on pelvic lifting using your core, not your lower back. That’s where women tend to get stuck — they tend to rely on their lower back to give them propulsion.” (The risk of which isn’t a joke, either. Worst-case scenario, you could throw out your back or sustain some other injury — not exactly a bedroom turn-on.)

Missionary position can also provide a good butt workout. “The more she does buttock squeezes, the more she could accentuate her riding toward him to give herself a good glute workout,” Britton says.

Doggy-Style

Like with the missionary position, penetration-from-behind sex engages the woman’s core because she has to stabilize herself on all fours, says Berman. You’ll also be working your quadriceps and glutes to help brace yourself against the impact.

However, you can use a modified position to get a good arm workout, too. Rather than having your hands flat on the bed, “if the woman has her hands on a wall in front of her and sort of uses her upper body to help thrust, that would be a good shoulder and upper body workout,” Berman says.

Cowgirl

With a standard cowgirl position, the lower part of the woman’s legs are braced on the bed or floor, which will engage her butt and core.

“Much like riding a horse, she’s going to flex her lower abs and pelvic muscles,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, a certified sex educator and author of Touch Me There! “Pressing into the man’s abs and sides with her quads or calves can engage those muscles as well.”

Modifying the cowgirl position can work additional muscle groups. “To make it even more intense, she can come up onto her feet, almost like a squat over him. That’s all butt, legs, and hips,” says Berman. “If she gets up onto her feet and leans onto her hands, she’ll also have to use her upper body to balance.”

Lotus

Like the missionary position, the lotus sitting position is one of the more passive sex positions. However, many of the same muscles worked in the cowgirl position are going to be used in this contortion: the core is engaged to stabilize the body, and the glutes are worked during thrusting.

Standing

Standing is one of the more challenging positions because often the woman has to allow her partner to lift her in some way, says Britton.

If the man and woman are facing each other, core and upper-leg strength comes into play: if she’s standing on one leg, those leg muscles are worked to keep her upright, and core muscles are engaged to keep her balanced. If she’s wrapping both legs around her partner, she’ll need good arm strength to hold onto her partner. And regardless which one of these contortions she’s in, “she has to have stamina if she’s standing,” says Britton.

If the man and woman are facing the same direction, the same muscles engaged in doggy-style are used: she’ll work her core for balance, and her arms can be worked if she’s bracing herself against a wall or headboard and using them to help thrust.

According to Britton, the scissors position is the least strenuous of all — there’s no suspending of body weight, and it generally makes for gentler and slower penetration (which would explain why it’s often recommended for pregnant women). “Scissors is for when you’re tired, not for being an acrobat in bed,” she says. Still, that’s not to say you won’t still be engaging muscle groups.

With your legs intercrossed with your partner’s, there’s limited movement for both the man and women, so a lot of inner-thigh strength and core stabilization will be at work. “When you squeeze your inner thighs, the core will naturally contract as well,” Berman explains.

Bridge

With the bridge, the woman is facing upward, using all four limbs to hold her body weight off the bed. All our sex experts agree: this pose is not for the weak. Or, as Britton puts it: “Oh, God, she better be yoga-ing five days a week or training as a gymnast.”

“This is a highly advanced position,” Britton says. “She needs to stabilize herself so as he’s thrusting in and out, she doesn’t crash.”

Even if you pile a tower of pillows under your back to help support your weight (which Britton recommends), you’ll still definitely be working your buttocks and inner-thigh muscles, says Fulbright. “This is going to work all of it — her biceps, triceps, abs, glutes, quads, calves. Unless she’s really strong, she shouldn’t expect to hold this position for long.”

Adds Berman, “If you’re going from cowgirl to this position, your butt will start burning after five minutes.”

Arch

The arch is a modified bridge pose, with a woman resting on her shoulders while using her legs to hold her lower body off the bed.

“In many ways, she’s using the same muscle groups as for the bridge, only working them harder because she’s using less to hold herself up,” says Fulbright. Your core muscles, glutes, and thighs are all worked in the arch. However, Britton considers this a much safer position than the bridge: “There’s no strain on the neck or shoulder region, which can seize up.”

Lunges

Sure, you might hate doing lunges at the gym while your personal trainer named Cheetah is yelling at you to do “just five more,” but you might not mind them so much in the bedroom.

Like the name suggests, the lunge position has the woman sitting on top of the man, with one leg planted in front of her and the other leg extended behind her in between the man’s legs. This move is good for the quad, front of the leg, hamstring, core, and butt, says Berman. “It’ll also work the deep stabilizer muscle of the leg in the front — both inner and outer thigh — as well as stretch the back leg’s hip flexor,” she says. “That’s great because most people sit at desk all day, and this way you can stretch it out.”

 

 

 

Modern Birth Control Methods for young women

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We could have titled this article, “Contraception: Not Your Mother’s Birth Control,” because women today have never had more options when it comes to birth control. Did you know there are at least 17 forms of contraception today? And that several of these options can do more than just prevent pregnancy.

So if you’re still using the same form of birth control you were using a decade or more ago, it’s time for an update. And, if your lifestyle or focus has changed over the past few years or even months, your health care professional can help you determine a method that best fits your current needs.

Hormonal-based options—several to choose from
Good options for women who have been using oral contraceptives with no problems but are now ready for a change are one of the two new estrogen-based contraceptives: NuvaRing and Ortho Evra.

NuvaRing is inserted into the vagina like a tampon, where it releases a steady amount of estrogen and progestin throughout the month. You wear it for three weeks, then take it out for a week and have your period. Then you insert a new ring. Side effects include hormone effects similar to those from the pill and a mild increase of vaginal discharge. As with oral contraceptives, NuvaRing may increase the risk of blood clots and stroke, primarily in women who smoke. NuvaRing is 91 to 99 percent effective when used consistently and correctly as directed.

Ortho Evra is a skin patch with hormones embedded in its adhesive layer. You stick it on your lower abdomen, buttocks or upper body (but not your breasts), where it slowly releases estrogen and progestin for a week. After a week, you peel it off and replace it with a new one. After you’ve used three in a row, you take a break for a week, during which you get your period. The patch delivers a higher dose of estrogen than most birth control pills, and it’s unclear whether it increases the risk of blood clots or not. It also is 91 to 99 percent effective when used consistently and correctly as directed.

If you want to steer clear of estrogen, talk to your health care professional about progestin-only, long-term, reversible contraceptives. These are Implanon, a matchstick-sized rod implanted in your arm, and the Mirena intrauterine system, an IUD.

Implanon relies on a progestin called etonogestrel for its protective effects. It is implanted in your upper arm and prevents pregnancy for up to three years. Common side effects include abnormal bleeding, headache and depression, and it’s not recommended for women with a history of breast cancer. Implanon is 91 to 99 percent effective when used consistently and correctly as directed.

Mirena continuously releases progestin called levonorgestrel and can remain in place five years or longer. This IUD can reduce heavy menstrual bleeding, which can be an issue for some women as they near menopause. The major side effect is some irregular bleeding.  Mirena has been FDA-approved to treat heavy menstrual bleeding in women who use intrauterine contraception as their method of birth control prevention. It is recommended for women who have had a child. This is a new indication for Mirena, which was approved by the FDA in 2000 as a contraceptive.

The copper IUD is a hormone-free, long-term reversible option that also prevents fertilization. It can be used for up to 10 years but isn’t a good option if you experience heavy bleeding. IUDs are considered more than 99 percent effective at preventing pregnancy.

And, for those of you who prefer oral contraceptive pills as an short-term reversible birth control option, but need to avoid estrogen, then the “mini pills,” which contain only progesterone hormone, may be indicated for you.

Barrier methods—there if you need them
Of course, you can always choose the protect-as-you-go option: barrier methods such as condoms (male or female), the cervical cap, diaphragm and spermicides. These are typically effective at preventing pregnancy 80 percent of the time (though spermicidal creams and jelly can improve their effectiveness), so they may be best if you’re in a monogamous relationship and can generally predict when you’re going to have intercourse. One caveat: If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, add a condom to your contraceptive arsenal regardless of what you’re using; it’s the only thing shown to protect against most sexually transmitted infections—which can affect you no matter what your age!

Permanent birth control—when you know it’s time
Permanent contraception is the most common form of birth control overall and the most popular type of birth control for women over age 35. In fact, 30 percent of women between the ages of 35 and 39 have opted for permanent birth control, while 10 percent of women in this age group have male partners who have been sterilized. Between the ages of 40 and 44, the percentage of women opting for sterilization jumps to nearly 35 percent.

There are three choices for ending fertility, each of which is more than 99 percent effective. You’re no doubt familiar with vasectomy—the man’s form of sterilization—and tubal ligation, in which your fallopian tubes are cut or blocked to prevent an egg from traveling down them to meet sperm. Today, however, women have a new option: a minimally invasive, nonsurgical permanent birth control, also known by their brand names, Essure  and Adiana.

The two nonsurgical procedures differ slightly, but both can be done in your doctor’s office in about 30 minutes with only a local anesthethic, unlike tubal ligation, which requires surgery. During the procedure, your doctor uses a special instrument called a hysteroscope to place an insert through your vagina and cervix and into the opening of your fallopian tube in your uterus. Within three months, the insert cause your body to form a tissue barrier that prevents sperm from reaching the egg. During this three-month period, you need to use another form of birth control. After three months, the doctor performs a special x-ray to make sure your tubes are completely blocked. Risks include mild to moderate pain immediately after insertion. This method may reduce the risk of tubal (ectopic) pregnancy compared to tubal ligation. Women typically can return to their normal activities within a day or two.

As you can see, your options are much broader than that pill package that’s been a fixture in your medicine chest for awhile. So make an appointment with your health care professional and talk about what’s right for the woman you are today, not the woman you were then.

 

10 SCENTS & FOODS THAT TURN PEOPLE ON

560x342-wearing-mens-cologneThinking about eating these foods and scents may make you more than just hungry. Here’s 10 scents and foods that really turn people on.

Vanilla

Ladies, lose the lingerie. Vanilla might do the trick instead. It’s the “number one fragrance that makes men drool.” It’s also calming, invigorating, and euphoric. The science is in too. Research has shown that “vanilla is potent in the arena of love.” So make sure the sex smells vanilla but isn’t. Zinger!

Roses

Women love roses, we all know that but did you know that ancient people frequently used them in their love potions? Turns out they were on to something, roses contain”phenylethylamine,” the chemical produced by people in love. Plus, they’re pretty. So, there’s that.

Beets

Some call it “nature’s viagara” for increasing blood flow but beets pack more punch than that — they have boron, which stimulates sex hormone production.

But the real kicker is this: beets smell like the most “powerful stimulating aroma on earth.” That’ll do it.

Patchouli

Patchouli is known for its use in oils in tantric sex practices in India — supposedly the scent “awakens and provokes sexual energy.” Patcholi is also the unofficial scent of all hippies and they did create the Summer of Love back in 1967.

Bananas

Bananas definitely take the cake as the most sexual-looking item on the list but did you know they’re packed with nutrients that help with sexual hormone production? You know that feeling of being hot and bothered? That’s what bananas do in the right context.

As if there wasn’t enough suggestion going on regarding male genitalia, ‘nanners also reportedly get dudes going as a libido enhancer.

Ginger

Ginger is said to increase “sexual prowess” and has circulatory enhancing properties aka gets your blood going. On top of that, ginger goes perfectly with many alcoholic drinks so now you know what to order at the next happy hour.

Avocados

Health expert Barbara Klein said that avocado’s abundant vitamin E helps keep up “youthful vigor and energy level.” Funny tidbit: The Aztecs had some REAL hang ups with “the chocolate of fruit.” They thought it was so sexy that they kept their daughters inside during the harvesting season.

Figs

Figs have been found to increase sexual stamina. It’s also reported that in some European counties, weddings feature people throwing figs instead of rice. Also, some say that figs are the fruit that Eve ate in the Garden of Eden, so most people already associate them with snakes. BOOM!

Chile Peppers

Capsaicin, the ingredient that sets your mouth on fire and is present in all chiles, will make your kisses “fiery” but not just because it’s a natural irritant. Capasicin makes your heart rate and blood pump, according to About.com, and this can get some blood down to where it needs to be to make magic happen. Hubba-hubba-hubbanero.

Jasmine

Jasmine is one of the primary ingredients of perfume says SheKnows.com. This sexy smell,reportedly works by “releasing endorphins [from] the pituitary gland.” Or in plain english: “makes you feel good and horny.”

6 Surprising Things That Make You Sexier, According to Science

What makes you more attractive to the opposite sex? Is it your hair, your eyes, or your legs? Our physical attributes are usually the first thing we think of, but they’re definitely not the only features that attract one person to another. Humor, weirdness, and courage also rate high on the sexy meter, and we have the science to prove it. So if you want to know what your potential partner is looking for, scroll down to see some of the surprisingly sexy qualities.

It’s Gorgeous When You’re Just Joking Around

If you were to rate your most attractive features, the physical attributes probably spring to mind first, right? But what if you were told being funny is more desirable to the opposite sex? It might not feel like you’re being “sexy” at the time, but humor is incredibly endearing, and there are the scientific studies to back it up too. One field study proved women find funny men attractive because it’s a sign of intelligence, according to research. There’s good news for all the non-funny men out there too, which brings us to our next tip…

It’s Alluring When You’re “Weird”

Are you someone who prefers to fit in, or do you like to be different and proud of your eccentricity? Well, according to an Australian study led by psychologist Matthew Hornsey from the University of Queensland, both men and women prefer “non-conformist romantic partners.” This research contradicts the “common belief that men prefer women who are submissive, modest, subdued, and agreeable.” So go ahead and march to the beat of your own drum, ’cause it’s damn sexy when you do.

You’re at Your Best When You’re Brooding

So we know women find funny men more attractive, but according to a University of British Columbia study, they find “happy guys significantly less sexually attractive than swaggering or brooding men.” Apparently female participants rated images of smiling, happy men the least attractive and preferred those who looked “proud and powerful, or moody and ashamed.” Well, this certainly helps explains the universal allure of the “bad boy” and why women are drawn to the swooning James Deans and Edward Cullens of the world. But before you go and update your Tinder profile, it’s important to remember that this study is based on “first-impressions of sexual attraction to images of the opposite sex,” says Alec Beall, a UBC psychology graduate student and study co-author. “We were not asking participants if they thought these targets would make a good boyfriend or wife—we wanted their gut reactions on carnal, sexual attraction.”

Being Courageous is Captivating

Being courageous is having “the ability to do something that frightens” you, and the willingness to confront uncertainty. This isn’t always easy, but this powerful emotion could make you sexier, too. Branding expert and USC professor Jeetendr Sehdev questioned 10,000 men and women from Asia to Australia on what makes someone sexy. The results, published in Glamour, found a whopping 75% of respondents think “courage matters more than confidence” because it “shows someone’s flaws in a positive light and makes them relatable.”

You’re Hotter When You Wear High Heels

We already know heels ramp up your fashion appeal, but science says they make you sexier, too. According to a study in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior and published in Time, high heels increase a woman’s attractiveness. In three separate experiments, Nicolas Guéguen from the department of social behavior at the University of Bretagne dressed French women in the same black suits with a straight skirt and white shirt. The only difference was their shoes. The study found men were more receptive to women, and willing to help them, in high heels as opposed to flats. When one woman dropped her glove in the experiment, “95% of men chased after the women when they wore high heels to return the glove, compared to 62% of those who did when she wore flat shoes.”

It's Attractive When You Know the Other Person Likes You

Have you ever thought about telling your crush how you feel? It’s probably one of the hardest things to do, but if the person don’t know you’re interested, how will you ever get together? Well, it might be time to summon up the courage. Dr. Aron told Nicholas Boothman wrote in How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less, “The subjects’ expectation that the other person was going to like them had a huge effect. If you ask people about their experience of falling in love, over 90% will say that a major factor was discovering that the other person liked them.” So playing hard to get isn’t the way to play at all.

Sharing Your Secrets is Seductive

First dates are nerve-racking and, for the most part, fairly awkward for both parties. However, there is a way to make it a smoother experience and spark engaging conversation. According to Sam Gosling, author of Snoop, “Emotional, personal information exchange during first date conversation promotes powerful feelings of connection.” So share some of your secrets next time: You might just find yourself bonding beyond the dinner table.

The Top 11 Health Benefits of Sex

Regular sex cannot be underestimated as a factor for reducing stress, bolstering self-esteem and fostering feelings of intimacy and bonding between partners.

But the real point of this article is the fact that a healthy sex life can provide for a longer, healthier and, most would agree, more enjoyable life. Among the many health benefits of sex are:

1. Improved Immunity

People who have sex frequently (one or two times a week) have significantly higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA).1 Your IgA immune system is your body’s first line of defense.

Its job is to fight off invading organisms at their entry points, reducing or even eliminating the need for activation of your body’s immune system. This may explain why people who have sex frequently also take fewer sick days.2

2. Heart Health

Men who made love regularly (at least twice a week) were 45 percent less likely to develop heart disease than those who did so once a month or less, according to one study.3

Sexual activity not only provides many of the same benefits to your heart as exercise but also keeps levels of estrogen and testosterone in balance, which is important for heart health.

3. Lower Blood Pressure

Sexual activity, and specifically intercourse, is linked to better stress response and lower blood pressure.

4. It’s a Form of Exercise

Sex helps to boost your heart rate, burn calories and strengthen muscles, just like exercise. In fact, research recently revealed that sex burns about 4 calories a minute for men and 3 for women, making it (at times) a ‘significant’ form of exercise.5 It can even help you to maintain your flexibility and balance.

5. Pain Relief

Sexual activity releases pain-reducing hormones and has been found to help reduce or block back and leg pain, as well as pain from menstrual cramps, arthritis and headaches. One study even found that sexual activity can lead to partial or complete relief of headache in some migraine and cluster-headache patients.6

6. May Help Reduce Risk of Prostate Cancer

Research has shown that men who ejaculate at least 21 times a month (during sex or masturbation) have a lower risk of prostate cancer.7 This link needs to be explored further, however, as there may have been additional factors involved in the association.

7. Improve Sleep

After sex, the relaxation-inducing hormone prolactin is released, which may help you to nod off more quickly. The “love hormone” oxytocin, released during orgasm, also promotes sleep.

8. Stress Relief

Sex triggers your body to release its natural feel-good chemicals, helping to ease stress and boost pleasure, calm and self-esteem. Research also shows that those who have sexual intercourse responded better when subjected to stressful situations like speaking in public.8

9. Boost Your Libido

The more often you have sex, the more likely you are to want to keep doing it. There’s a mental connection there but also a physical one, particularly for women. More frequent sex helps to increase vaginal lubrication, blood flow and elasticity,9 which in turn make sexual activity more enjoyable.

10. Improved Bladder Control in Women

Intercourse helps to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which contract during orgasm. This can help women to improve their bladder control and avoid incontinence. You can boost this benefit even more by practicing Kegel exercises during sex (a Kegel squeeze is performed by drawing your lower pelvic muscles up and holding them up high and tight, as if you’re trying to stop a flow of urine).

11. Increase Intimacy and Improve Your Relationship

Sex and orgasms result in increased levels of the hormone oxytocin — the “love” hormone — that helps you feel bonded to your partner, and better experience empathic connections.